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For example. Does the mother invite the ex, her child's father to the ceremony in the synagogue? Does the father get an Aliya, an honor that under normal circumstances reserved for the father of the Bar mitzvah? Every case should of course be decided upon based on the particular circumstances, but parents are urged to try as hard as they can to put their own feelings aside and do what would be most comfortable and acceptable to their child. If at all possible and palatable to all involved, it would be best to have both parents there for the child. Regardless of who has physical custody of the bar mitzvah boy or who plays a larger role in the childs life, and irrelevant of who pays for the even, one must remember that a parental bond cannot be severed. Its a fact of biology. Having both parents at the service may be important to the bar mitzvah boy. Giving an aliya to a father is a traditional honored custom at bnei mitzvah ceremonies. So it may be worth tolerating an exs presence and giving him an aliyah. But its not a must. If the divorce is still fresh, the wounds are still deep, and the hurt is still burning, or when the presence of both parents may lead to an altercation and an embarrassment to the child, or if one or both parents are remarried, and the new spouses are not liked by the child and will cause them grief or shame and detract from the enjoyment of their special day, find other solutions.
Some kids celebrate their bar and bat mitzvahs
twice. (They may read the Torah at one, and only receive an aliyah at the other,
or just repeat their speech or performance.) Some may go to Friday
night services with one parent, and be the guest of honor at the Oneg Shabbat
after-service social. Then theyll spend the Saturday service and read the Torah
with the other parent. Some will have the ritual service with one parent and a
party celebration with the other. Other options include having the service
and party with one parent and taking a bar mitzvah trip with the other. Click Here to Search For Bar & Bat Mitzvah Service
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